As you may have guessed by now, we homeschool. To be exact and put a label on us we unschool.
It is a family effort. Not just me, not just my husband, not just the kids. We. Together.
It is perfect for us. We love being together, to “explore”, find out, see, hear, taste and try.
It is not easy. Nothing that’s worth anything ever is.
Every now and then I have to admit, I panic though. I wonder if my children learn what they need, to “make it” later on in live. I am worried, if it was the right decision, to let them lead the way. Specially when I talk to other parents with kids in public/private school. (or “real” school as I have been told)
We homeschool not for religious reasons, or for distrust in the public school system (although I think it is lacking). We homeschool, because we want our children to be happy, well balanced, compassionate and strong persons.
I dislike the way other parents treat us though.
I dislike them grilling my children the minute they find out we homeschool. Specifically questions like: “So, how much is 148 times 22299976?” get my goat. Do you know that in your head in three seconds or less? That is about the time they give them. Then they sputter “Can’t do that, huh?” What “real school kid” could?
“What did you learn today?” Is the other question that gets to me.There is so much we learn each day… how can you possibly tell them all of it…
Do you see me grill your children on what they learned? Do you see me belittle the way you chose to educate your children? (oh, sorry… you don’t educate them, you chose to leave that to someone else)
Another really “popular’ question is:
“What qualifies you to teach your children?”
Hmmm dunno. Maybe the fact that we love them, maybe the fact that we care, maybe the fact that we believe in family…
That never impresses them.
So I whip it out: I have a bachelors degree in fine arts, architecture and science, I was a dental hygienist before I had kids. My husband has a degree in Radio, TV and Film and is a Cisco trained network admin. He works for a non-profit organization.
I do compare.. I have to admit.
I am not sure why it is so much better to have your children being subjected to peer pressure. I don’t know why so many “real school” parents whine about their kids being “commercialized” from the food they eat to the music they listen to. Yet they don’t do anything about it. After all, it is better to have them in school, away from home. So that both parents can go and make a living. So they can keep up with the Joneses.
Isn’t the commercialism something YOU are teaching them? Not the schools? Isn’t that something they are bringing in, rather then bringing home?
My children don’t have “brand-name” clothes. Never asked for it. My children listen to Pearl Jam, The white Stripes, Aretha Franklin, The Rolling Stones, Son House not Justin Bieber, or Kelly Clarkson.
They read. Actual books!(Austen, Bronte, Saint-Exupéry, Defoe, Swift, Dickens, Verne, the list goes on)
They eat what I make. They help grow our food and have fun while doing so.
They are strong individuals that will not buckle to group pressure.
They are already blazing their own paths.
They still have imagination.
They are not into sex and boy/girlfriends.
They are good listeners.
They stand up for what is right, even if it gets them in trouble.
I have noticed most of the kids I see have no manners left either. Bad language. I am not talking about four letter words. (Don’t get me started on that!!!) I mean bad grammar, bad pronunciation. I bet if they would know how stupid it makes them look they would not speak that way. Their peers are doing it, so off they go.
Thank you and please are not the norm, but rather a pleasant surprise. How sad is that.
“Real” school children also don’t know how to speak to adults. They always seem to feel inferior. My children know how to handle themselves. They see themselves as equals. It would never occur to them that they might not receive the same respect they give. (They also know if they don’t show respect they won’t get any)
Regular school doesn’t teach your children everything! Some parents seem to forget that. They think education is done when kids get home at around 4 pm.
My children have chores and they do them. They know that living together meas working together. We don’t have the “don’t copy from my paper” issue… They know: sharing means to learn together. They teach each other, just as much as we teach them.
They pick up trash from the road on walks. They clean up your environment too, my ‘real’ school parent.
Tell me again why public/private schools are so much better?
I don’t have anything against public/private schools. I just don’t see why we have to be ridiculed and grilled for the way we chose to teach our children.
Don’t hate on homeschoolers. We don’t hate on you…